Statistics say it all -- divorce and break up rates are at an all time high. Very few relationships end up ultimately "working", even in cases where two people who love each other very much stick it out for years. It's completely normal to feel like you want advice on how to get your ex back, especially if you had a close relationship. You're not some kind of freak. In fact, very few break ups end with both parties being perfectly content with moving on.
While every relationship is different, people tend to break up for the same underlying reasons. I'm going to give you an idea of why a man or a woman tends to leave their partner.
And yes, the common reasons for breaking up tend to differ in both men and women. However, there are similarities as well. Let me go ahead and break it down for you by gender, just so that we're on the same page.
Have you ever heard anyone talk about "the male ego?" Well, its real, its huge, and its a beast that needs a lot of nurturing. A man has to feel like a man to want anything to do with a relationship. He needs to feel that he commands respect. He also needs a sense of freedom, and he absolutely must feel that his woman is attracted to him and looks up to him.
Conversely, women also need to feel like women. But women are not so ego-centric as a man. Instead of constant respect and admiration, a woman needs a sense of appreciation and feeling special, sort of like a priceless heirloom or a treasure. She needs to feel like a princess or a queen to feel secure in a relationship.
Even though your ex may have given you a different reason for why they no longer want to be together (often a very vague, confusing reason) you have to trust me on this one for now, because the psychology behind this is beyond the scope of this article.
But basically, men and women feel things FIRST -- and then try to "rationalize" those feelings with logical reasons that are politically correct to society, in line with their morals, and will not hurt your feelings.
So when your ex tells you why they wanted to break up, it is often smoke and mirrors. Your ex is not intentionally trying to lie to you, but because of the sensitive nature of the subject, their brain will make it "easier" on the both of you through deception.
To get started towards getting your ex back, the key is to repair damage that has already been done. Basically, you have to stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things. Sounds simple enough, right? - 26706
While every relationship is different, people tend to break up for the same underlying reasons. I'm going to give you an idea of why a man or a woman tends to leave their partner.
And yes, the common reasons for breaking up tend to differ in both men and women. However, there are similarities as well. Let me go ahead and break it down for you by gender, just so that we're on the same page.
Have you ever heard anyone talk about "the male ego?" Well, its real, its huge, and its a beast that needs a lot of nurturing. A man has to feel like a man to want anything to do with a relationship. He needs to feel that he commands respect. He also needs a sense of freedom, and he absolutely must feel that his woman is attracted to him and looks up to him.
Conversely, women also need to feel like women. But women are not so ego-centric as a man. Instead of constant respect and admiration, a woman needs a sense of appreciation and feeling special, sort of like a priceless heirloom or a treasure. She needs to feel like a princess or a queen to feel secure in a relationship.
Even though your ex may have given you a different reason for why they no longer want to be together (often a very vague, confusing reason) you have to trust me on this one for now, because the psychology behind this is beyond the scope of this article.
But basically, men and women feel things FIRST -- and then try to "rationalize" those feelings with logical reasons that are politically correct to society, in line with their morals, and will not hurt your feelings.
So when your ex tells you why they wanted to break up, it is often smoke and mirrors. Your ex is not intentionally trying to lie to you, but because of the sensitive nature of the subject, their brain will make it "easier" on the both of you through deception.
To get started towards getting your ex back, the key is to repair damage that has already been done. Basically, you have to stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things. Sounds simple enough, right? - 26706
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